What Is An Erotic Message?

One of the few ways which you can get intimate with your partner without having sex is with an erotic massage. It has the benefits of a normal massage, keeping your partner relaxed and calm, and also making them feel loved, as you bring them near climax with your hands. An erotic massage might be the ultimate foreplay both you and your partner need. Your partner's mind is calm and free of every distraction, and their body is as relaxed as possible, making them ready for sex if that is what is next on the menu.

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Where Can You Get An Erotic Massage?

There are some spas and centers that give erotic massages. They have professional masseuse in charge of it who are skilled at what they do. That does not mean you are not capable of doing it. The reason why most people shy away from giving their partner an erotic massage is because they feel they cannot do it well. But you do not have to be a professional or an expert before you get into the art of erotic massage for your partner. By carefully following the few tips we would provide, you can give your partner the ultimate erotic massage they deserve.

Benefits of an erotic massage

Before we begin, you may probably be wondering why you need to give your partner an erotic massage or what benefit it has to them or you. Some of that include:   

1. It is an act of Intimacy  

Before you can even lay your hands on the body, you have to appeal to the senses. This involves setting up the scene to enhance the smell, the look, and what sound comes from it. Focus more on using candle lights or very dim light. This reduces distraction, allowing both of you to focus on the business at hand. Also, playing some ambient or soft music at the background sets the mind tight. Ambient music is very soothing, helping the mind relax better. You can add roses to enhance the smell of the room. Just make sure the scene is one that would make both of you focus more on each other.  

2. Relieves physical pain 

During an erotic massage, your focus would be on areas where your partner faces some form of pain, such as their necks or legs or back, helping them feel better. 

3. Relaxes the mind 

A massage makes one forget their worries as it clears their mind while they focus on the massage. An erotic massage is even better because it keeps your partner in the mood, feeling orgasmic.

4. It makes you fulfilled

When you give your partner an erotic massage,  it makes you feel like you are doing something important for them, which you are, creating a sense of fulfillment and value.

Steps on how to give an erotic massage

Without a doubt, an erotic massage is not only good for you but for your partner as a partner with a relaxed mind would be more active and willing to participate fully in the relationship. But how do you go about giving them one? The following guide would come in handy.  

  • Set the tone

Before you can even lay your hands on the body, you have to appeal to the senses. This involves setting up the scene to enhance the smell, the look, and what sound comes from it. Focus more on using candle lights or very dim light. This reduces distraction, allowing both of you to focus on the business at hand. Also, playing some ambient or soft music at the background sets the mind tight. Ambient music is very soothing, helping the mind relax better. You can add roses to enhance the smell of the room. Just make sure the scene is one that would make both of you focus more on each other. 

  • Get what you need 

When massaging, you will make use of oil on your partner's skin. This allows the massage to penetrate more as your hand glides through their body. Coconut oil is the best option because it is warm on the body. Another great option is the eucalyptus oil.
Also, you would need a massage lotion. This can be used together with the cream or alone. Because massage lotions have a nice smell, it is very recommended as it adds to the mood in the room. Get a few soft towels to lay on the bed. Also, enhance the way you look. What you wear when you massage can also heighten your partner's arousal.

  • Begin lightly

Your first few touches as you start the message should be as lightly as possible. Apply less pressure or force as you place your hands on them initially. Let it be as affectionate as possible. One of the key differences between a normal massage and an erotic one is that less force is applied. Your major focus is on your partner's mind and getting them as relaxed as possible. So your touches should be gentle but precise. 

  • Focus on key areas

When you massage, your focus should be on certain parts of the body like the neck and legs. Apply gentle pressure to these areas, working it up to relieve every pain there. Pay attention to the wrists, shoulders, knees, and other joints.
Try as much as possible to have physical impact there to make your partner feel better. Remember, one of the aims of this is to relieve physical pain or stress, so you should apply enough pressure to achieve that.

  • Have fun

Now, this is where things get better. You have massaged the necks and wrists enough, it is time to have fun by paying attention to the sexual parts of the body. However, it should not be rushed. Everything should be gradual, to achieve the full purpose. When you are done with the back, you can gently flip your partner over and start with the stomach before graduating to areas of high sensitivity like the breasts, thigh, and genitals. Depending on what they like, you can also work on their feet. It should be gradual with light touches. Your work here should be more of teases, making them want more with your every touch. Rub your hands over the genitals, with attention to parts where they would most feel pleasure. If it is on your woman, then your focus should be on her vagina, working your way up to the clitoris.  

The Climax 

It is very necessary that you communicate with your partner during the massage, finding out the effect on them. As you place more emphasis on their genitals, find out how they are enjoying it to know whether to apply more pressure or less. Most likely, you would have brought them to the point of orgasm, so it is best to maintain rhythm in order to get them to complete ecstasy.

NOTE 

However, do note that not every massage must end with an orgasm right away. You can make your partner relaxed enough to have intense sex. 

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